In 2023, I spent a lot of time writing about healthy communication skills, boundaries and identifying abuse and […]
Category: Mental Health, Culture & Psychology
A Reflection, Book Review of Asian Honor, and Further Reading Resources Caveat Lector I don’t know who you […]
As Water to Fish: Shame and Being Chinese
2 Who's Tai Sui, the scary figure in Chinese astrology, and who's his equivalent in Western Astrology? Why do 4 different Chinese zodiac animals every year have to worry about "offending" him?
Fan Tai Sui: A Different Look at Facing Off Jupiter
One of the previous jobs I did was acting as a historical guide, and I gave pretty kick-ass […]
Ghost Stories
Gratitude is seen as a good emotion and attitude to cultivate and express. “Exercise Gratitude” is Card 33 […]
The Dark Side of Gratitude
Highly Sensitive People may feel at the mercy of their environments. But let's use that for our own benefit.
The Sensitivity Toolbox
Suck it up. Don't be soft. Man up. Move on. Don't be a baby. It is no easy thing to be sensitive in our modern world.
A Defence of Sensitivity
I dedicated so much energy and headspace in my life to anticipating the criticism of my parents and […]
Self-Acceptance as the Antidote to Criticism
2 Shadow work is a term in healing and Psychology that relates to working with the parts of ourselves […]
Sexuality & the Shadow
It’s been like an extended drug trip, or time in our own padded cell. Lockdown forced us inside. […]
Lessons in Lockdown
1 “The anthropologists got it wrong when they named our species Homo sapiens (‘wise man’). In any case it’s […]
The Power of Unfinished Stories
In collectivist and conservative cultures, individuation might as well be called “selfish, selfish selfishness that will lead to […]
Conformity is not Cohesion
Some of our important choice points in life will revolve around whether to pursue something big and new […]
Giving Ourselves Permission to Start
Received during the New Virgo Moon, 2019: All relationships provide opportunities for healing. We heal ourselves by creating […]
A Meditation on Relationships
2 More than one conversation that I had in the past week was about wearing masks. For some of […]
The Masks We Wear
The spiritual path is not without its pitfalls, and one of the easiest stumbles to make is to […]
Of Fake Gurus and Religious Abuse
Asians seem to have an extreme and fatalistic relationship with failure. We learn from childhood that failure is catastrophic […]
The Lesson of Failure
1 I chuckled when someone once candidly confessed to me that they used to be a “workshop junkie”. The […]
Workshop Addiction, Avoidance, and Action-Paralysis
I’ve been ghostwriting recently, as I’ve shared on my mailing list. I almost wish I’d started doing this […]
3 Common Creative Blocks and How to Overcome Them
4 Self-Nurturing and Journal Prompts for Cancer Season (June and July 2017) Indulge me in some personal stock-taking as […]
3 Things to Know while Finding your Purpose
5 I watched this in the theatre with my 7-year-old when it was released. I never said this before: […]
Identity, purpose and destiny in Moana
2 Sleeps with Butterflies, a pencil sketch, 2010. All rights reserved. “One day I’m gonna write a book…” “One […]
One Day (A Motivational Exercise)
The Self-Love Oracle features a “Write” card that carries the painting “The Patron Goddess of Journaling”. This post […]